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How Compassion Helps with Anger

I felt some anger lately. The details aren’t important, so let’s just say I paid for a service and didn’t feel satisfied with the service I got. In general in the world, there seems to be more anger around these days, particularly online. Every time I log into Facebook I see someone ranting in my feed, and Twitter is so …

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How I Developed a Daily Yoga Practice

I do yoga every morning. It wasn’t always this way. For years, I wanted to be doing yoga more frequently. I thought it would be good for me, for my stiff shoulders and neck as well as aches from an accident decades ago. I felt virtuous when I did yoga and guilty when I didn’t. I liked feeling virtuous. For a while, I …

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An Experiment in Positivity on Social Media

Okay so, though I am not a celebrator of New Year, I have made an intention to post only uplifting, positive, compassionate and/or healing stuff in 2017. This will not always be easy, but it matters to me that we treat people and the world with kindness and if I want others to do it, let it start with me. …

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New Year – Time to Celebrate or Reflect?

I might be alone in this, but New Year never seems a huge deal to me. Just because we switch the calendar from one number to another, why does that give license to burn thousands of pounds (or dollars) of fireworks? And what is the deal with getting so drunk you don’t even remember seeing those fireworks? Okay so I’m …

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How Kittens and Human Thrive

Scrolling through my Facebook feed one day, three videos caught my eye. In the first, a rescued kitten wasn’t thriving, so the people who’d fostered her placed her with a husky. The two bonded, to the extent that the husky allowed the tiny kitten to suckle. I can’t show you that exact video, because it was an unauthorised compilation and …

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How To Be Your Own Friend Through Sadness And Disappointment

When things are going well for us, it’s (mostly) easy enough to feel good about ourselves, and to feel compassion towards others. But when life throws us those old curveballs every other day, or several times a day, it’s not so easy. Yet that’s when we need compassion the most – both to feel it for others and to feel …

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Falling Out With Fall

“I always think that when the bairns go back to school, that’s the summer over.” His tone was wistful, sad. I understood. I felt the same way. Dad and I were fastening corn stacks, or more likely he was fastening them and I was holding them for him. I never learned; he knew it by heart. I miss my father …

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How to Weather Emotional Dips and Negative Feedback

Focusing on compassion and blessing should automatically lead to feeling more gratitude and seeing the good in people, not to feeling irritable or getting into arguments. Or so I imagined. Um, no. In life, a few things are certain. We are all born; we will all sometime die. After a wave washes onto a beach, it pulls back again. Spring and summer are followed …

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Is Compassion Natural or Nurtured? a #1000Speak post

I am dressing my baby after her vaccinations, feeling relieved we got through it without tears. She looks around, eyes wide, paying attention to the movements in the room. A mother lays her baby on the changing mat next to ours. The baby is wailing loudly. My baby turns her head to look at him. She starts crying too. We …

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60 Mothers Say “So Glad They Told Me”

So often parenting is seen as a competitive sport. If there was a Parenting Olympics, the medals would go to those more skilled in: Bitchiness, Giving Useless Advice, Giving Unwanted Advice, Doling Out Put-Downs (Disguised as Super-Helpful Advice, with an extra medal of extremely clever disguises), Showing Other Parents Why You Do It Right and They Do It Wrong, In …