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How Compassion Helps with Anger

I felt some anger lately. The details aren’t important, so let’s just say I paid for a service and didn’t feel satisfied with the service I got. In general in the world, there seems to be more anger around these days, particularly online. Every time I log into Facebook I see someone ranting in my feed, and Twitter is so …

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How To Be Your Own Friend Through Sadness And Disappointment

When things are going well for us, it’s (mostly) easy enough to feel good about ourselves, and to feel compassion towards others. But when life throws us those old curveballs every other day, or several times a day, it’s not so easy. Yet that’s when we need compassion the most – both to feel it for others and to feel …

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How to Weather Emotional Dips and Negative Feedback

Focusing on compassion and blessing should automatically lead to feeling more gratitude and seeing the good in people, not to feeling irritable or getting into arguments. Or so I imagined. Um, no. In life, a few things are certain. We are all born; we will all sometime die. After a wave washes onto a beach, it pulls back again. Spring and summer are followed …

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Is Compassion Natural or Nurtured? a #1000Speak post

I am dressing my baby after her vaccinations, feeling relieved we got through it without tears. She looks around, eyes wide, paying attention to the movements in the room. A mother lays her baby on the changing mat next to ours. The baby is wailing loudly. My baby turns her head to look at him. She starts crying too. We …

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60 Mothers Say “So Glad They Told Me”

So often parenting is seen as a competitive sport. If there was a Parenting Olympics, the medals would go to those more skilled in: Bitchiness, Giving Useless Advice, Giving Unwanted Advice, Doling Out Put-Downs (Disguised as Super-Helpful Advice, with an extra medal of extremely clever disguises), Showing Other Parents Why You Do It Right and They Do It Wrong, In …

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When Someone You Love is Suffering – Be Real

A person I love works hard, against difficult odds, to achieve a goal. It doesn’t happen. This person feels disappointment. I feel it too, and regret: perhaps if I’d followed up on an idea I had months ago the odds could have been reduced, this sadness prevented. I allowed others to dissuade me, wasn’t sure. I’m still not sure, and …

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How Blessing Can Transform Your Life

Have you ever felt resentment towards someone? Did you take time to bless them? I know that probably sounds like a silly question, but that’s what Pierre Pradevand did and it transformed his life and, through his teaching, the lives of many others. You don’t need to be religious to bless someone, just willing. Several years ago, I read Pradervand’s book, The Gentle Art of …

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The Courage to Have Compassion – a #1000Speak post

During World War 1, a man armed only with a revolver and stick destroyed a German machine gun and its killed its crew. When attempting to take out a second machine gun he was killed. He was posthumously awarded the Victoria Cross. That’s courage, the kind of courage that wins medals, and is remembered. Yet, it also takes courage to …

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I will not look away

When I close my eyes, I see a world where we love each other, where tolerance and respect win out over anger and hatred. I see a world where everyone has enough to eat, where every adult has fulfilling employment and every child has the education they need. I see a world where everyone has a home. When I close …

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How Do You Fight Hate? #1000Speak

She would have wanted two things above all else to happen now, one that our precious children are bathed in love and two, that we all unite to fight against the hatred that killed her. Hate doesn’t have a creed, race or religion, it is poisionous. Brendan Cox, widower of Jo Cox, the Labour MP murdered last Thursday. How do …