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One Side – A #1000Speak Forgiveness post.

Her eyes dart away, and her legs shake. She walks past him, slouched on the sofa. She looks away again, doesn’t look in his eyes. He grabs her wrist, and looks up. “Please, Shelley, I didn’t mean it. I’m so, so sorry. Forgive me, please.” His voice tails off, his head bows. “Please.” A whisper. She doesn’t look at him. …

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Life Lessons From a Cat #1000Speak

Yesterday was Sunday, yet Amazon’s delivery company was working overtime and a parcel arrived. It contained gifts from friends halfway round the world. I took the packages out and put them beside the others by our tree, and then I went back to working on a post I was writing for our 1000VoicesSpeak blog. My husband brought a cup of …

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Mothering Through the Darkness – a Review.

Review of: Mothering Through the Darkness: Women Open Up About the Postpartum Experience, edited by Stephanie Sprenger and Jessica Smock My first attempt at reading Mothering Through the Darkness stopped after three essays. The weight of these women’s struggles seemed overwhelming, and I wasn’t sure I could carry on. It didn’t help that I am in the midst of writing …

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Is it Okay to Appreciate Yourself?

Most people like receiving thanks for what they do, and for who they are. In fact, many of us feel annoyed, taken for granted and grumpy if our efforts or gifts aren’t met with thanks. Marriages break up because one spouse doesn’t feel appreciated by the other. Parents and children, siblings and siblings, friends and colleagues fall out because people …

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What if?

What if? What if we stopped seeing success as material wealth? What would that look like? Would the beggar you passed yesterday be more or less successful than the film or pop star who died this year or last of a drug or alcohol overdose? Would the woman picking tea on the foothills of the Himalayas be more or less …

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How Do You Love the World? #1000Speak

Some homeless people and campaigners who support them squatted in an empty building that is about to be renovated into a boutique hotel. The building’s owners are two ex-football stars. The homeless had already been evicted by Manchester city council from another empty building and expected the same thing to happen this time. Instead, the owners, Gary Neville and Ryan …

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From Mommy Wars to Mother Love #1000Speak

In I Only Knew Her Peanut-Butter-Lovin’ Son From Fliers Taped On Storefronts  Julie Jo Severson writes about a time when as a student journalist, she interviewed the mother of a boy who was abducted by a gunman, never to return. Twenty-five years on, Julie Jo is a mother and, in her own words: “at times, I ‘overparent,’ hovering over my kids more than I …

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Can You Let Go of Self-Judgements?

It’s a strange irony that we spend most of our lives not living them, but trying to change what has gone (the past) or control what isn’t here (the future.) The mind is very, very sneaky. We can see where other people do this – and where other people are too this, too that, too something other! But it’s far, …

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How To Listen

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Steven Covey, Author of: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. What is Good Listening? I used to think that being a good listener meant not interrupting, staying silent while the other person talked. I wasn’t sure if I was a good listener, …