Busting myths: you get what you focus on

This is the first in a series of posts aimed at demystifying spiritual jargon, debunking myths about the Law of Attraction, and helping people see through beliefs we use to torture ourselves. I am not an “enlightened being,” but I have been questioning thoughts and releasing feelings for many years so I do see through stories that some people might …

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I need them to respect me – is it true?

A few weeks ago, a friend told me about a difficult meeting she’d attended, in which she hadn’t felt respected by one man. She considered making a formal complaint about this man, but she felt so angry she couldn’t find the words. As we talked, she began to see that maybe all wasn’t quite as she’d thought.

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My Child Should be Different – is that true?

A few days ago Katia, who blogs at iamthemilk, wrote a post after noticing how polite her young son is with other kids. She expressed concern that in putting the need for acceptance first, he would surrender control over his feelings to others. I could understand Katia’s feelings, having felt that way about one of my daughters many times. What …

People Shouldn’t Judge – is that true?

This blog began life as a way to record my experience as a mother using The Work of Byron Katie to inquire into stressful thoughts – hence the title Inquiring Parent! (What – you thought it meant I rang up supermarkets to inquire about the price of butter, or inquired about the kiddie facilities in my area?) Anyway, life moved …

Teenagers are Difficult: Is That True?

Since last summer I have been mother to two teenagers. We have our moments. But then, with teenagers, who doesn’t? That’s pretty much what you’d expect the mother of a teenager to say, isn’t it? If you’re not too keen on teenagers you might roll your eyes and say that they are selfish layabouts and the only good thing about …

Inquiry: Children spend too much time at computers and watching TV – is it true?

Most parents seem to believe some version of this, and I certainly have my moments. But a few things have led me to wonder about this recently. First of all, if a  belief causes me stress (and this one definitely does) then it’s worth investigating. And secondly, someone told me recently about a woman who is now in her eighties, and …

Inquiry: Parents should always be consistent – Is it true?

I haven’t updated this blog for a long time for several reasons. First of all, over at HubPages, where I write as Melovy, I have been busy learning how to better optimize my writing for search engines. Meanwhile my kids have been growing into teenagers and they are not so keen to share the foibles of our family life. I believe …

Combining The Work and The Sedona Method

As well as continuing to use The Work to inquire into the stressful thoughts and beliefs that come visiting, for  a year or two now, I have also been using The Sedona Method, and because it has become a huge part of my life it seems time to write a post about it. I’ve written before about the difficulties many …