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I wonder why I write…

Sometimes, I’ve noticed a niggling thought lurking in my mind: “I’m not good enough.” Mostly, in the last few years at least, I haven’t given in to the thought. Instead, I have taken it out into the open, let it have its say and then let it go. Logically, I knew it wasn’t true. Logically, I knew I was as …

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Thoughts About Thoughts

Do your thoughts make you who you are? Sometimes it feels that way. Sometimes when I have thoughts I deem “good,” whether they are wise, kind or clever, I feel good. When I have thoughts that seem unkind, selfish or ignorant, I don’t so feel great. Those thoughts come with another one: “You are unkind, selfish, ignorant. Stupid.” Then, it …

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Write Out The Heart – Review and Special Offer

Write Out the Heart is a program Fiona Moore developed after joining 1000 Voices Speak For Compassion and seeing that writers often felt self-doubt. For over two decades, Fiona has worked with many creative people, helping them to release blocks to creativity and to “express their authentic self, and make difference with their lives.” Write Out The Heart takes what …

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What Does Happiness Have To Do With Compassion? a #1000Speak post

20 March is 1000 Voices Link-up day. It’s also International Day of Happiness, so this month its seems a great idea to write about the connection between compassion and happiness. What does happiness have to do with compassion? Um… everything. The more compassion we feel, the more likely we are to feel happy. You don’t have to take my word …

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A Question of Perspective

Last year we rearranged our house, and ended up with a spare computer desk. We tried to sell it on Gumtree, but the one person who emailed never turned up. It sat in our living room for several days, and then I wheeled it into the room where I write (a conservatory off the living room.) I thought it might be …

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Is It Possible to Choose Happiness?

Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness to just be happy. – Guillaume Apollinaire Do you pursue happiness? No? Me neither! I just float around on a cloud of bliss all day, because I’ve chosen to just be happy instead. Ha! As if it was that easy. March 20th is International Day of Happiness, so …

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Book Review: Parenting With Purpose by Nina Garcia

I hadn’t got far into Parenting with Purpose before I knew that I was going to like it. In the first page of her introduction, Nina Garcia says: “We’ve got this discipline thing all wrong. We assume discipline is about punishment… We mistakenly believe that the main purpose of discipline is to stop tantrums at all costs, as quickly as possible.” …

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When life feels like a big rush

Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished. – Lao Tzu   Most days I’m fairly relaxed and just do what’s before me. I take disruptions as they come and if it means I don’t my list of tasks completed – so be it. So when this site crashed after I’d updated my theme X, a few weeks ago, I …

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When You Think You Can’t Forgive

Do you find it hard to forgive? You aren’t alone. Many people feel the same way, and some psychologists even say our brains are hard-wired not to forgive as a way to protect ourselves from perceived danger. Yet, even if this is true in the short term, several studies have shown that long-term effects of being unable to forgive could …

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Life Lessons From a Cat #1000Speak

Yesterday was Sunday, yet Amazon’s delivery company was working overtime and a parcel arrived. It contained gifts from friends halfway round the world. I took the packages out and put them beside the others by our tree, and then I went back to working on a post I was writing for our 1000VoicesSpeak blog. My husband brought a cup of …