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Is it Okay to Appreciate Yourself?

Most people like receiving thanks for what they do, and for who they are. In fact, many of us feel annoyed, taken for granted and grumpy if our efforts or gifts aren’t met with thanks. Marriages break up because one spouse doesn’t feel appreciated by the other. Parents and children, siblings and siblings, friends and colleagues fall out because people …

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Can You Feel Gratitude in the Midst of Chaos? #1000Speak

It seems almost selfish to feel gratitude at a time when the world is reeling from bombings and gun attacks, when forest fires are raging in Indonesia, sending as much carbon dioxide into the air in a week as Germany’s annual emissions and when a dam has burst in Brazil, causing a massive outpouring of sludge that has made its …

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How To Listen

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Steven Covey, Author of: The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People. What is Good Listening? I used to think that being a good listener meant not interrupting, staying silent while the other person talked. I wasn’t sure if I was a good listener, …

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The Man Who Learned to Listen

Two years ago today, my father died. I’ve heard that it takes two years to get over the death of someone you love, but I’ve also heard you never do. What exactly does getting over it mean, anyway? Certainly not that you cease to love the person, or to miss them. Certainly not that you stop thinking about them. It’s …

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Why Acceptance isn’t Resignation and How to Truly Feel It

“Well I’ll just have to accept it.” When something doesn’t go the way you hoped it would, do you ever say this? Or how often do we say this about children? “She need to accept she can’t always get what she wants.” (When she wants something she can’t have.) “He needs to learn to accept that people are like that.” (When …

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Life Is – And that’s enough

Do you ever have the feeling that you are alone in the world? Everyone else is off having some party to which you weren’t invited? They are all more successful than you, have more friends, more fun, more everything? Or, do you sometimes sit alone and imagine millions of other people sitting alone too? Do you wish you could somehow …

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#1000Speak News and Thanks

Whew! I’m thankful that’s over. I’ve spent much of the day doing two things – figuring out how to add a custom domain to the 1000 Voices Speak For Compassion blog and messaging with Michelle of Getting Literal as she set up the email sign up form on the Facebook Page. I’m thankful that Michelle is more skilled at using …

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Gratitude, Attitude and a cat

Confession: sometimes I find writing about gratitude really hard. To be even more specific, sometimes I find writing posts for the Ten Things of Thankful blog hop really hard. With the Thankful hop, the difficulty is often logistical – because it’s the weekend and I’m busy doing weekendy things with my family or with friends. Other times though, the things …

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Thankful for moments

I’m sitting in departures, ready to fly home after a busy weekend. As if anyone in 1000 Voices Speak or Ten Things of Thankful don’t know that already – Lizzi and I met in real life. We did. The two originators of 1000 Voices Speak For Compassion met for the first time on Saturday. We had an absolutely wonderful time. …

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Self Compassion – Does it Work?

Although this post was one I wrote a while ago, its message is entirely relevant to 1000 Voices Speak for Compassion, so I’m republishing it for today. It’s a little over a year since I read Kristin Neff’s book Self Compassion and the topic seems to keep cropping up everywhere – in conversations with other bloggers, and just in life in general. …