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Sometimes it Snows in April

Going by the magazines in the local newsagents, whether Jennifer Aniston is or isn’t pregnant occupies the minds of many people. I’m not one of them. Likewise, what dress Victoria Beckham wore last week matters as little to me as where she went, and I’m not sure I’d even recognise a Kardasian if I came across one. My life doesn’t feel …

Thanks for this? Yes, really.

When I was seventeen a young man threatened me at knife point, tied me up and held me hostage. He was the ex-boyfriend of my friend and he figured this action would somehow get her back. (I know, I know – and yes, I did point out that even if she came running she wasn’t likely to stay. My logical …

Giving Thanks, Hurting and Healing

Try not to resist the changes that come your way.  Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come? – Rumi Friday 13th September: Those of you who’ve read any of my recent posts …

Let Go of Trying to be Better Than Your Parents

In the days and weeks just before my father died, we had many conversations. In some of those conversations he expressed regrets. He hinted that my sister and I have made a better job of parenting than he did. He thought perhaps he’d done things that weren’t kind; he said he hoped he could be forgiven. I told him that anything he had …

Teenagers are Difficult: Is That True?

Since last summer I have been mother to two teenagers. We have our moments. But then, with teenagers, who doesn’t? That’s pretty much what you’d expect the mother of a teenager to say, isn’t it? If you’re not too keen on teenagers you might roll your eyes and say that they are selfish layabouts and the only good thing about …

Inquiry: Children spend too much time at computers and watching TV – is it true?

Most parents seem to believe some version of this, and I certainly have my moments. But a few things have led me to wonder about this recently. First of all, if a  belief causes me stress (and this one definitely does) then it’s worth investigating. And secondly, someone told me recently about a woman who is now in her eighties, and …

Gratitude and Guilt

Since you’re reading this there’s a good chance you also read personal development blogs and books. If so, you will probably have read that feeling gratitude is essential to finding happiness. It makes sense: there is nothing quite so joyful as feeling waves of gratitude pass through you, and there is little more painful than feeling consumed by resentment. One way …

Are We Ill At Ease With Illness?

The girls have both been ill lately, and one or the other has been off school for weeks, which is largely the reason it’s taken me so long to post.  I find it fascinating to notice the mass of contradictory beliefs in society, and in me, connected to illness. Western cultures seem to believe that we have to fight illnesses, …