Self-sabotage Self-sabotage. We’ve all heard the term. We get an opportunity and then we blow it. Or we do something we don’t like and so we beat ourselves. And then we feel like c**p, so we beat ourselves for beating ourselves. “I’m self-sabotaging myself again!” we yell. “As always! I’m such an idiot!” And then we beat ourselves for that … Read More
The Many Facets of Grief
Even as I’ve been going through it, even when it has hurt deeply, I’ve felt fascinated by the grief process. Grief doesn’t come in a box marked: “Sad all the time. ” In the first few days after my father’s death, when my sisters, mother and I were together, it’s true we did a lot of crying. But we also … Read More
Giving Thanks, Hurting and Healing
Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead, let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that the side you are used to is better than the one to come? – Rumi Friday 13th September: Those of you who’ve read any of my recent posts … Read More
Thankful for My Father
I’ve been away. I had planned to write a post before I went, and I had planned to write a post for last weekend’s 10 Things of Thankful blog hop. But as fellow Scot, Robbie Burns, once said, “The best-laid plans of mice and men go oft awry.” (Well, actually, he said: “The best-laid schemes o’ mice an’ men gang … Read More
Ten Things of Thankful
I have several posts planned for this blog, but they are all in various stages of needing a little more research here or a bit of tweaking there. My writing brain is working at a slightly slower speed than normal, largely due to being more tired than normal. I have read that lack of sleep does this – well I … Read More
Self Compassion by Kristin Neff: a Review
You only need to read a few of the posts on this blog to know that I am not a newbie at self-development. I’ve attended workshops in The Work of Byron Katie, The Sedona Method and Non-Violent Communication. I’ve meditated, and released tension with yoga. I’ve also read copious books by other writers, psychologists, coaches and one by a hypnotherapist. … Read More
Let Go of Guilt and Shame
Guilt and shame are insidous feelings, hard to spot and sometimes also hard to stop. First, it helps to understand why we feel guilt – what we unconsciously hope to get from it and why we won’t ever get that. For me, understanding that felt like permission to treat myself with more kindness. If you struggle with guilt or shame, … Read More
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