I am not exactly the world’s best at self-promoting or of pushing myself forward. It used to be shyness that stopped me, way back in teenage days. Shyness being a term to describe quiet people with noisy minds – minds that chatter away saying: “They won’t like you if you say that.” And, “You’ll look like a fool if you do that.” And, “I really ought to stop being so scared and stupid, but I just can’t.” And, “People don’t like quiet, shy idiots so I really need to change. But I can’t.”
Majorly helpful advice for a quiet shy person.
A few years have passed since then. Okay, a few decades. If you met me now (and some of you have: Lizzi, Geoff ) you would notice I can talk. Sometimes I even talk too much. Come to think of it, sometimes I write too much too, since most things I write need a lot of pruning. (29,000 words slithered from Drawings In Sand during several red-pen attacks and still it’s around 400 pages.)
Nowadays, the main reason I don’t self-promote it because I forget to do it. I’m too busy
playing solitaire cooking dinner, wasting time on Twitter researching for articles, posts and stories, plotting and planning fanciful dreams realistic goals for 1000 Voices Speak For Compassion, to remember. However, if I’d like people to read what I’ve written, especially if it’s not on this blog, then it would be a good idea to let you know about it.
So anyway, as you’ve probably guessed, I’m about to do a bit of self-promoting.
Yesterday on Brain, Child Magazine my sweet and talented teenage daughter and I debated Do You Let Your Teenager Wear Clothing You Consider Inappropriate? You’ll side with her. Most people have so far. I really don’t mind though because we wrote our pieces separately, and I didn’t read hers till she’d finished. I was very impressed that the conversations we’d had about this had more impact than I’d thought, or else she’s just considered the issues because she’s an intelligent young adult.
Here’s some of what she had to say:
When I was about fifteen, I decided that I liked how I look. I don’t entirely know how I did it, considering I’ve grown up in a society that bombards girls with reasons to feel that their bodies are inadequate. But I did. Which isn’t to say I don’t have moments when I look in the mirror and see imperfections, but on the whole…I feel pretty good about my appearance.
To read the rest, and get my piece too, click here.
There’s more. Start a girl on self-promotion and there’s no stopping her! But really, this is for those of you who haven’t been following my blog so long, who probably just met me through the 1000 Voices. You might not even know I write short stories, or that I come from the Shetland Isles. But I do and I do. For some reason that I don’t understand I’ve had more success with getting stories published if I set them in the islands of my childhood than anywhere else. Perhaps it’s the romantic idea of islands people like. The reality can be harsh at times however, and my stories deal more with reality than romance. I’ll be honest – since the stories in Looking For America didn’t set the world on fire when they were in anthologies and magazines, I’ve been surprised at the kindness of the reviews. I thought they were fairly ordinary stories about ordinary people; But according to most reviewers, they deal with ordinariness with some beauty. Here’s what one says.
Yvonne Spence paints. She draws beautifully crafted portraits of real people. And while you are reading her paintings, you wonder “How does she do it?”
Don’t take his word for it though, because for today and tomorrow you can get Looking For America for free. If you are in the USA, the first link will take you to Amazon.com and if you are in the UK, the second one will take you to the UK site.
And while you’re at it, do check out Drawings In Sand if you haven’t already. It’s the story of a single mother, desperate to keep her child, who struggles to overcome drunkenness, a violent boyfriend, a supercilious ex and to unearth a family secret. (I’ll love you forever if you buy it and write a nice review to make up for the one fairly stinky review it had lately.)